Last week a friend of a friend sent me a friend request on Facebook (did you follow that?). Since I use Facebook to market my business I typically accept friend requests and then remove those who do strange things like ask me to marry them (yes it happens more often than you’d think). After accepting a friend request I always message the person to ask them who they are, what they do, why they wanted to connect and how I can support their success.
On this occasion my query was answered: “Well, first because of your pic. Then I read down further and noticed the cool things you are into.”
To which I replied: “Be warned, I'm brilliant and driven first; blonde second.”
As I thought about that response, I wondered is it professional? Would it drive clients away? Should I have been more … I don’t know, placating … in my response to his comment?
I decided that no, what I said was perfect. It is true to who I am and to my personality. It makes it clear that I own my physical appearance but it does not define me. And if someone doesn’t like confident or driven or smart – well then they probably wouldn't be my client anyway.
The reason I am sharing this story is because I have found the more true I am to my real self, snarky, funny, silly, and yes even plucky and the less I try to fit the mold of what is “professional” or what a “coach” or “trainer” should look or act like, the more the right clients find me and the less often I make the mistake of working with someone who isn’t my perfect client.
What parts of you are hiding for fear of judgment or because you’re afraid you’ll drive clients or customers away or whatever you make up will happen if you are really you? I say let that you run free! Isn’t it better to have raving fans of the true you than mediocre fans of some guarded version of yourself?
If you aren’t you your perfect clients, the ones who can’t wait to give you their money to work with them, will never find you.
Be you. Be kind. Be awesome.
And as always, I wish you the MOST from your potential
PS – It should be noted that the friend of a friend wasn’t at all taken aback by my confident and plucky response. In fact, the conversation quickly turned to the work I do as a consultant and how his office could use the skills I teach. Good stuff!
Dr. Robyn Odegaard (aka “Doc Robyn”) is internationally known motivational speaker, executive coach and corporate trainer. As CEO of Champion Performance Development, she works with executives, professionals, athletes, and coaches to help them achieve excellence by sharing active leadership, powerful teamwork, conscious communication, Productive Conflict™ and professional disagreement skills. She is the founder of the Stop The Drama! Campaign and author of the books Stop The Drama! The Ultimate Guide to Female Teams and The Ultimate Guide to Handling Every Disagreement Every Time. To work with her, have her present to your team, request a custom workshop or invite her to speak at your event, please call 302-307-3091 or email her at DocRobyn@ChampPerformance.com to discuss her availability.