Have you experienced one or more of the following?
Chances are you are nodding your head right now and thinking, “Yeah, I really need to know how to get people to not do that stuff.” I want to ask you a tough question and the only person who needs a straight answer is you: How many of those things have you done?
Passive-aggressive behavior is unhealthy for everyone involved. It breaks down trust, encourages negative gossip and can eat away at our confidence. We are all guilty of doing it; usually because we are trying to avoid conflict or disappointment or we fear rejection. We have to keep that in mind when other people do it to us as well. Solving it starts within.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself and others (gently):
You are now ready to take action. Stop avoiding that person. Answer his/her question with the truth.
Over time you will get a reputation for being a straight talker who can tell the truth with kindness and compassion and hear the truth without jumping to conclusions and becoming defensive. As your friends, colleagues, coworkers and leaders begin to trust you not to behave passive-aggressively; they will feel less need to treat you passive-aggressively. And that my friend is how you get people to stop doing “that stuff”.
As always, I wish you the MOST from your potential!
PS - If you are interested in working with a coach, I'd be happy to have a conversation with you to discuss how I can support your success. All you have to do is ask.
Dr. Robyn Odegaard (aka “Doc Robyn”) is internationally known motivational speaker, executive coach and corporate trainer. As CEO of Champion Performance Development, she works with executives, professionals, athletes, and coaches to help them achieve excellence by sharing active leadership, powerful teamwork, conscious communication, Productive Conflict™ and professional disagreement skills. She is the founder of the Stop The Drama! Campaign and author of the books Stop The Drama! The Ultimate Guide to Female Teams and The Ultimate Guide to Handling Every Disagreement Every Time. To work with her one-on-one, have her present to your team, request a custom workshop or invite her to speak at your event, please call 302-307-3091 or email her at DocRobyn@ChampPerformance.com.